黄维仁博士佳言录-献给亲密之旅的天使们

Helen&Grace黄维仁博士佳言录MessagesofHeartfromDr.Wei-JenHuang献给《亲密之旅》的天使们——因为您们，使我们有机会学习、成长并开始全新的生活……生命是一份来自上天的特殊礼物永远值得我们好好珍惜LifeisapreciousgiftfromHeaven……worthyoftenderlovingcare人最可贵的是——有一颗谦卑愿意学习的心Rankinghighamongthevirtuesisahumbleandteachableheart一颗受了伤，还愿意不断去学习、不断去爱、不断寻求医治的心是一颗最美的心Themostbeautifulheart,isaheartthatinspiteofbeinghurt,stillkeeponlearning,lovingandgrowing.爱就是彼此珍惜ToloveistoCherishEachOther倾听就是爱，了解中有医治ListeningisLoving;There’sHealinginEmpathy只有当一个人感受到爱的时候他才会努力超越自己去做发自内心的有持久性的改变Onlywhenapersonfeelloved,fromhishearthewillseekthereal,thorough,andpermanentpositivechange.当我们愿意去爱，去标明别人的善意和长处时就看见了上帝慈爱的面容Whenwearewillingtolove,tohighlightotherpeople’sgoodintentionandefforts,wewillseethesmilingfaceofthelovingGod.我们可以让别人变成天使也可以让别人变成恶魔Wehavethepowertobringouteitherthebestortheworstinothers爱是投其所好，而非——给己所要Tolovetoisgiveotherswhattheyneed,butnottoimposewhatIneedontothem当我们没有感受到爱时，并不代表别人没有试着爱我们Whenwedon’tfeelloved,donotdrawthewrongconclusionthatothershavenottriedtoloveus当我们觉得受伤时，并不等于别人故意要伤害我们Whenwefeelhurt,itdoesnotmeanthatothershavedoneitonpurpose天下人间最难发展出的能力是看事情的角度和观点Themostdifficultabilitytodevelop,istoperceivetheworldandpeoplefrommultipleanglesandalovingheart.了解冲突，寻求双赢Understandtheunderlyingcauseofconflict,strifeforwin-winresolution学习成为不断标明别人长处和善意的高手Learningtobecomeanexpertinhighlightingotherpeople’sgoodintention,virtuesandstrength解决伤害和愤怒最好的办法是——饶恕Themosteffectivewaytohealouremotionalwoundsis…..Forgiveness为爱点燃一盏灯……LightupaLampofLove看透不点透……Perceivebutdonotexpose先解决心情再解决事情Problemdiscussionbeforeproblemsolving;SoothingEmotionbeforemanagingIssues学习为自己的幸福快乐负责Learntotakeresponsibilityforourownhappiness自认倒霉，接受现实自求多福，反败为胜Acknowledgeourfateandsituation,butnevergiveupinchangingitforthegood学习用成人的眼光重新去检视过去的一些事件和情绪Re-examineeventsinourpast,viewthemfromthematureperspectiveofanadult伤痛+怪罪=四大杀手Pain+Blame=4relationshipkillers伤痛-怪罪=亲密关系Pain-Blame=IntimaeRelationship一个人可以给别人最珍贵的礼物——是他内心深处真正的想法和感受ThemostpreciousgiftthatamancanofferIsthehonestsharingofhisinnermostthoughtsandfeelings让我们以尊重、鼓励、了解、珍惜、保密的心态来领受Let’sreceiveitwithaempathicandcherishingheart;Encourageandkeepitconfidential.一个真正高质量的亲密关系，需要经过误解、伤害、饶恕、修复后才能建立起来Deep,IntimateRelationshipareEstablishedafterMisunderstanding,Pain,ConstantRestorationandForgiveness.为爱留一处空间ForthesakeofLOVE,graciouslygiveourlovedonessomespace健康的爱是——没有你我也可以活得很好Healthyloveis:Iamfineevenwhenyouarenotaroundme有你我会更幸福Butwithyourpresence,myjoyismadecomplete因为——爱能遮掩一切过错BecauseLovecoversallsins