giving-and-receiving-gifts

•theideaofthegift礼品观念•Chineseusuallypayattentiontothegift’spracticaluse.•reason:--pressureoflargepopulation--relativelytherearelessresource--socaremoreaboutthemateriallifeandthematerial’spracticaluse•newcouples:inthepast,wewillchoosebedsheetandotherthingslikethat.•newbornbabies:wewillgivesomebeautifulclothes.•now:wearemoreliberal(不拘泥的),weoftengivemoneydirectely,whichisreallymoreandmorepractical.Inthewest•Westernpeoplealwayscaremoreaboutthememoryvalue纪念价值andthegiftprobablyisn’tveryexpesive.•whenwegiveelegantgifts,suchaspaintings,stamps,wecaremoreaboutthereservevalue收藏价值expensiveexamples•visitingfriends:theyalwaysgivesomeflowersorabottleofwinewhichispopular.•SomehandiworksarealsoOk.•Whentheycomebackfromtheforeigncountry,theyuauallyjustbuysomepostcards.•thepurposeofgivinggiftsChina•Chinesepeoplealwaysgivegiftswithstrongpurpose.•Whentheyneedsomeone’shelp,theywillgivesomegiftsinadvance.Bythisway,theyhopethingswillbedonemoresmoothly.exampleWhensomeonegoesabroad,ifthebagtheycarryisoverweight,theywillgivetheclerksomegiftswhichcanmakesthemshowmercy.手下留情.Andthisisusefulinsomecountries.Inthewest•Westernpeoplealwayscareaboutthesenseofthegiftsandthegiftsarealwaysgivenafteraskingforahelpwhichisshowthanks.exampleYouentertainsomeforeignpeople,whentheyleave,theymayjustgiveyouapenwhichhasanAmercianflagonit.ForChinese,thisismean吝啬的，butforwesternpeople,itisenoughbecauseofitssense.•thewayofbuyingthegiftsChina•Chinesepeoplealwayschoosetheplacewhichisneartotheaccomodationoftheacceptortobuythegifts.Theythinkitisconvenientandtheydon’tneedtotakefromremoteplaces遥远的地方.•.AsfarasI’mconcerned,IwilldosowhenIvisitmygrandparents.Ijustbuysomethingsneartheirhome.Ireallydon'twanttocarrysomethingonthewayInthewest•Westernpeopleisjusttheopposite.Theylikebuygiftsfromanotherplace,theywanttobringnewtryfortheaccetorbythis.•Meanwhile,theywillavoidpostinggiftsfromabroad,becauseitwillbringsomeinconvenienceandextraexpense.ButforChinesepeople,wealwayslikethat.Somemattersneedingattentionwhengivinggiftstoforeigners:•First,weshouldknowwhattheylike,thisisthebasicprinciple.•Thenweshouldn’tsaythatthegiftisnotsogoodandsomeothersimilarwords.WeshouldsaythegiftistheoneIhaveespeciallychooseforyou.Aboutitsuseandfeatures,wehadbetterintroducetothem.•Finally,thetimeofgivinggiftsisalsoimportant.somesmallexamples•Arabia:阿拉伯•Whenyoumeetthemfirst,youshouldn’tgivegifts,becausegivinggiftsisregadedasbribery行贿.•Someoldthingsorwinecan’tbegiventothemasgiftseapeciallytothebussinessman’swife.Germany•Germancareaboutpackofthegift,soyoushouldprepareafancypackwhengivinggiftstoGerman.•InGermany,roseisjustforlovers,youmustn’tgiveittothehost.Youcan’tgivewalnut核桃,becausetheythinkitisunlucky.Inaddition,knifeandswordalsoshouldn’tberegardedasgifts.LatinAmercia:拉丁美洲•Youcan’tgivethemscissor剪刀whichisthesymboloftheendofthefriendship.•Hanky手帕can’tbegive,either,bacauseitisrelatedtotears.Amercia•Amercianlikeoutdoorsports,whenyougivegiftstothem,youcanjustinvitethemtoplayoutdoors,likeplayinggolf.•Ingeneral,theywillpreferthat.France•Thetime:whenyoumeetagain.•Thegifthadbettershowspraisefortheirwisdom.•Frenchlikeflowers,ifyouwanttogivesomeflowers,菊花chrysanthemumwhichisonlyusedinfuneralmustbeavoided.•youshouldattachthereceiptwiththegift,becausewhentheydon’tlikeit,theycanchange.•Blackpack,snail,shoe蹄铁can’tbegiven,theyareallthoughttobeunlucky.•ReceivinggiftsresponseInChina:don’topenitatonce----impolite.Ifyoudothat,theymaythinkthatyoucareaboutthegiftsomuch.SoChineseusuallysayyouneedn’tbuygiftsandpretendtonotcareaboutthegift.Butwhentheguestsleave,theywillopenitalone,andseewhatitis.•Inwesterncountries,peopleoftenopenthegiftimmediately,andtheywillpraiseit,sometimesgiveyouahug.•Theywanttoenjoythehappinesswithyou.Inaword,theywillshowstheirlove.taboosofreceivinggiftsYoushouldguessthegiver’spurpose,whenyoudon’twanttoaccepthisorherintention,youshouldrefuseitincaseofmisunderstanding.example:whensomeoneneedyourhelpandgiveyouexpensivegifts•Whenyoureceivethegiftwhichisnotsuitableforyou,youshouldn’tshowyourunhappinessanddislikeandputitaside.•Youcanexpressitbyjokesoryoudon’tmentionitatall.Afterall,thatisthegiver’sintention.•Whenyoureceivehongbao,youshouldn’tfeelthethickness厚度obviously，thatwillmakeothersuncomfortableandwillthinkyouaregreedy贪婪的.