英语辩论should-women-stay--home-or-go-to-work

1morepatient，goodatteachingandtakingcareoftheir2althoughnowdaystherearemorewomenworksoutside,menarethebetterbread-winners,theycanhelptheirhusband(1)Childhoodisthemostimportanttimeinone'slife,somothershouldtakecareoftheirbaby,tohelpthembuiltahealthycharacter.So,ladyshouldleaveathometotakecareoftheirbaby.(2)Tosupportherhusband.Inordertoletherhusbandkeephismindonhiswork.Yes,becausemothersaretheclosestpersontotheirchildren,andmotherloveeffectchildrensomuch.Somechildrendon'thavemotherswhentheyareyoungsotheyalwaysfeelslonelyandsomerudepeopleisgoingtocallthemscardycat.Soithinkmothersshouldstayhomeandtakingcareoftheirchildren.TheimportanceofmothersMoms,didyoueverquestionyourvalueasarolemodel,caretaker,administerofhugsandBand-Aids?Ithinkweallhaveintoday'sclimateofdomore,getmore,havemore.Manyofusworktobringhomeapaycheckandothersworkforoursanity.Haveyoueverwonderedifyourchildrenwerebetteroffwiththebabysitterthanyou?Scientificstudiesarebeginningtopointtotheoverwhelmingvalueofamother'slove,hugsandsupport.Nannies,baby-sittersandrelativesareterrific.Theyjustaren'tasterrificasMom.Ihavehadthebestofbothworlds,Isuspect.Iworkedahigh-poweredexecutivejobuntilmyolderdaughterwas2andahalf.Atacrossroadsinmycareer,Ioptedtogetpregnantandstayhomeforayear.HA!LittledidIrealizeIwasabouttotakeaten-yearhiatusfrommymuch-lovedlife!Ididn'tgetpregnantrightaway,but,afterhavingspentayearbaskingintheglowofbeingMom,Icouldn'tbeargivingupthecareandnurturingofmydaughtertoanothernanny,nomatterhowwonderful.Ithinkitwasthebestcareermoveofmylife.Well,tenyearslater,Iambackintheworkforceandthriving.Yes,Ifeltboredmuchofthetime.Yes,ourfamilysacrificedthebiggerhouse,fanciercarsandvacationssomeofourpeerswereenjoying.Butitwasaconsciousdecisiontosacrificeforthebenefitofourchildren.Wewantedourmorals,ourethicsandourlifelessonstoinfluenceourchildren.Ithinkmomscanworkathome,behomemakersorworkoutsideofthehomeandstillbegreatmoms.Themostimportantpartofmothering,Ifeel,isbeingthereforourchildren.Maybeyoursacrificeisgoingtoworkbutspendingyourpreciouslittlefreetimereadingyourchildabedtimestoryeverynight,takinghimtotheparkonSaturdaysorchaperoningyourdaughter'sschooldance.Whatmattersisourinput,theconfidenceinourrolesasmothersandknowingwearethebestpersonfortherole...tounderstandhowvaluablewearetosociety.Patyourselvesonthebacks...you'veaccomplishedamiracle!Thereisnogreatersacrificeonearth,inmyopinion,thanmakingthedecisiontobeaparent.Knowhowimportantyouare.Knowthatyourchildrenneedyoutobeassolidanindividualasyoucanbe.Thereinliesyourstrengthasamother,whetheryouspendalldayathomeorinanoffice.Weareallexceptionalwomeninourmotherhood.Babiesgivenmoreloveandaffectionbytheirmothersdealbetterwithstressandanxietywhentheygrowup,researchhasshown.Thestudylookedateight-month-oldchildren-meaningeventheveryearliestlifeexperienceswhichwedonotrememberinadulthoodcaninfluenceourwell-being.Lotsofmaternal（母亲的）lovemakeschildrenformasecurebondwiththeirmothers,meaningtheyareabletofeelsecureinrelationshipswhengrownup,willhavebettersocialskillsandcopebetterwithlife'sdifficulties,thestudyfound.Despitegrowinginterestinhowearlylifeaffectsusinadulthood,mostpreviousstudieshavereliedonpeople'srecollections（回忆，记忆）-whereasthisresearchtrackedparticipantsfromearlychildhoodtoadultlife.Theresearchers,ledbyDrJoannaMaselkoofDukeUniversityinNorthCarolina,ratedtherelationshipsof482eight-month-oldbabieswiththeirmothersduringroutinedevelopmentalassessment.Theylookedathowwellthemotherhadcopedwithherchild'sdevelopmentaltestsandhowshehadrespondedtothechild'sperformance.Theamountofaffectionandattentionshegavetoherchildwascategorisedintogroupsrangingfrom'negative'to'extravagant（奢侈的，浪费的）'.Mentalhealthwasthenassessedwhenthebabieshadgrownup-attheaverageageof34.Adultswhosemothershadbeenthemostaffectionate（深情的）duringtheirassessmentasbabieshadthelowestlevelsofanxiety,hostilityandgeneraldistress.Firststatement:Intoday'ssociety,womenoftenfeelthattobeseenassuccessful,theyshouldhavetobalancetheircareer,childrenandtheirmarriage.However,mostwomenareforcetostayathometoraisechildrenandgiveuptheirowncareer.It’sunfairforwomentodevoteallherlifetimeinfamilyinsteadofcatchinguptheopportunitiestolivewhatevertheywant.Soourgroupinsiststhatwomenshouldn’tstayathometoraisechildren,hereisourmainpoints.First,womenandmenareborntobeequal,there’snoanysayingthatwomenareborntoraisechildandtheyhavetoscarifytheirownlife.Womenalsohavetheabilityanddrivetodomanythingsamancando.Theyhavethelegalrightasanyoneelsetodecidewhatisbestforthemandtheirchildren.Second,inchina,parentsneedalotofmoneytoraisechildren.Asingleincomeisnotenoughtocomfortablysupportafamily,especiallythosesinglefamilies.Mothershavetogetoutworkingsoastoensurethattheirchildrenhavethebeststartinlife.Theycanaffordthebesteducationandbestqualityoflifestyle.Third,manyformsofchildcarecanbebeneficialandcomplimentarytothecareprovidedbyparents.Oldergenerationssuchasgrandparentscouldhandsonexperiencewithyoungchildrenandalsothechildcareprofessionalshavesimilarexperienceandtheyoftentakecoursesonchilddevelopment,whichma