Learning-How-to-Control-Yourself

6/1/12LearningHowtoControlYourself1/2ezinearticles.com/?Learning-How-to-Control-Yourself&id=2418967LearningHowtoControlYourselfByWillieHortonNormalpeopleareoutofcontrol.Thisisnotanobservation,atheoryoranopinion.Thisisastatementofscientificfact.Decadesofresearch,allthewaybackto1936,proveconclusivelythatthenormalpersonisnotincontrolofthemselves,rathertheyarecontrolledbytheirsubconsciousmind.And,becauseallthishappensautomatically,thereis,infact,norealcontrolatallbeingexertedintheordinarybehaviourofeverydaylife.Reflectonthisforafewmoments.Someonepullsoutinfrontofyouintraffic-someoneyou'venevermet,don'tknowandareunlikelytoevercomeacrossagain-andyouautomaticallygetagitated,annoyed,evenstressed.Clientshavesaidtomethatthemorningcommuteleavesthemtotallystressedoutandexhaustedbeforetheworkingdayevergetsgoing!Or,someoneyouclaimtolove-ahusband,wife,boyfriend,girlfriend-doessomethingsillylikesqueezingthetoothpastefromthemiddleofthetubeandyouautomaticallyloseyourhead.Indeed,itisacommonfactthatmostdomesticarguments,fights,evenmurdersariseoversomethingsillyorinsignificant.Asnormalpeople,wespendourlivesreacting.Thesereactionsareautomatic-drivenbyoursubconsciousmindinawaythatissodeeplyrootedthatweseemtohavenocontrol.Thereactionsjusthappen,oftenmakingmattersworseratherthanbetter.Infact,thesubconsciousmind'sautomaticprocesses(knownasautomaticitytopsychologists)areafinelytunedsetofresponsesthatenableuscompletehabitualtaskswithouthavingtopaythemanyattention.Unfortunately,aswegothroughouradultlives,mostthingsbecomehabitualand,asaresult,completelyautomatic.Wearenomorethanrobots,livinglivescreatedbyreactionswhichareautomaticallydictatedbyoursubconsciousprogramming.Weareoutofcontrol.ThatsubconsciousprogrammingwasinstalledthroughsnapshotlearningwhenyouandIwereyoungandimpressionable.Peopleandeventsthatmadeabigenoughimpressiononusduringourformativeyearswerefreeze-framedintoourdeepsubconscious.Thosesnapshotsarere-runeverytimeweencountersimilareventsduringouradultlifeand,asaresult,automaticallycreateourspontaneous,thoughtless,mindless,reaction.Inotherwords,wereacttowhat'shappeninginthepresentmomentbasedonprogramsthataredecadesoutofdate.Littlewonderhusbandsbeatwives,wivesbeathusbands,bossesbullyworkers,etc,etc,etc.Thelistisendlessand,asnormalpeople,wearecompletelyunabletostopthecycleofreactive,destructivebehaviour.Weneedtoregaincontrol.Ifwedoregaincontrol,somethingextraordinaryhappens.Westartacting-doingtherightthing,doingwhatismostimportant,mostappropriateandmosteffectivejustattherightmoment.Westartcreatingadifferentsetofbehaviours,adifferentchainreaction-becauseifwechangeourbehaviourtowardsothers,others(eveniftheyneverregaincontroloftheirminds)willattheveryleastreactdifferently.Wecreateadifferentexperience-adifferentlife.6/1/12LearningHowtoControlYourself2/2ezinearticles.com/?Learning-How-to-Control-Yourself&id=2418967Weregaincontrolbystopping.Stoppingourselvesinourtracks,toseeifwearebehavinginthebestpossiblewayorifwearejustknee-jerkingreactinglikealltheothermindlessmorons.Wecannot,however,stopourselvesinourtracks,orcallourselvestoattention,unlesswerelearnhowtopayattention.Aschildren,wewereattentionexperts.Ifwegotanewtoy,weusedallourfivesensestofullyexperiencethetoy-wesaw,felt,heard,smelledandtastedit.Asadults,Isendmyclientsforawalktoexperiencetheirfivesensesandsomeofthemreturnchewingbitsofhedgeorivybecausetheycouldn'tgetahandleonthetastethatwasalreadythereintheirmouthsbeforehand!!Normaladultscannotpayattention(scientificfactyetagain)-and,yet,payingattentionistheonlykeyyouneedtoopenthedoorintocreatingalifefreeofreaction,thelifethatyoureally,reallywant.Payingattentionenablesyoutakecontrolofyourmind-becausepayingattentiontowhatyouareexperiencinghereandnowstopsyoursubconsciousmindpayingattentiontotheprogramsthataredecadesoutofdate(theprogramswhichotherwisedictateyourautomaticreactions).Youhavetobeabnormaltopayattention.Youhavetobecomeagainlikealittlechild-childlikenotchildish.So,startingrightnow,see,feel,hear,smellandtastewhereyouare.Takefiveortenminuteseverydaytodojustthis.Itwillbemechanical,seempointless,atfirst.But,Icanassureyou(ascanmanyUniversitiesfromMilantoChicagofromEastLondontoStanford)thatdoingsomethingsosimplewillchangetheveryfabricofyourlifeandwillenableyoubethemosteffective,mostefficient,mostsuccessful,mosthappypersonyoucanbe-effortlessly.Copyright(c)2009WillieHortonWillie'sworkintheareaofself-improvementandmeditationhasbeendescribedaslife-changingandphenomenalbyclientsfromeverywalkoflife.Hisacclaimedtwo-daypersonaldevelopmentworkshopisnowavailableonlineatGurdy.NetArticleSource:=Willie_Horton©2012EzineArticles.comAllRightsReservedWorldwide