A New Look at Diana-戴安娜新传

ANewLookatDiana|戴安娜新传...Dianawenttotheboardingschool5RiddlesworthHallagednine.Shehadbeen“busylookingaftermyfathermostofthetimeandthensuddenlyrealizedIwasgoingtobeawayfromhim”,becauseofhavingtoattendboardingschool.Thismadeherfeelrejected.[Saysformerheadmistress6PatriciaWood:]“Itmayhavestemmedfrom[herparents’]divorce7,but[Diana]wantedtofeelthatshewasuseful[atRiddlesworth],sothatanythingthatshecoulddothatprovedherworth,sheparticipated8in.Iusedtohavethe‘MostHelpfulGirl’cupandIdon’tknowhowmanytimesshewonit.Shewouldalwaysremainbehindtohelpclearup9the[classroom],clearaway10books.‘IsthereanythingIcando?’Shewasthesamewithalloftheothermembersofstaffaswell—tothepointattimes11youwouldsay,‘Look,Diana,whydon’tyougooffandplay?’”Reginald[Latinteacher]:“Thedivorceobviouslydeeplyaffectedher.Andshewasverytorn12.Shehadalittlecryonseveraloccasionsaboutwhydoesn’tMummyloveDaddy?Andwhydoesn’tDaddyloveMummy?It’sverydifficulttoexplaintoachild.”...DianawastheonlychildintheschoolthatPennyWalkeraskedtobabysit13hernewbornchild.“In1977,mysonwasbornintheholiday.Andthefirstdayoftermshewasonthedoorstepwithacuddly14toyforhim.Andshejuststoodthereandsaid,‘Quick,takeit,beforeIhavetokeepit,becauseIthinkit’slovely.’Thenshekeptcomingoversaying,‘CanIhelp?’andshebecamethebabysitter.TherewascertainlynobodyelseofherageintheschoolthatIcouldpossiblyhavetrustedwithanewborn,butsheknewexactlywhattodo.”Inthespringof1978,DianamovedtoLondontoworkasakindergartenassistant．．．Diana’smotheralwayssawthatherdaughterwasconcernedforothersevenaftershestartedworking.“Forinstance,whenshewasinLondon,shesharedmyflatwithanothergirl,andonenight,theoccupantofthegroundfloorwasburgled15.Dianarangmeinthemorningandsaid,‘She’sveryupset,andherflatisverymessy16,doyoumindifItrytomakehermorecomfortable?’andthensherangintheeveningandshesaidshe’dtidiedthewholeflatandshe’dtakendownmytelevision,stayedwithherandmadeherameal.Itwasallquitenaturaltoher.”KayKing,whorantheYoungEnglandKindergartenwhereDianaworked:“Shewastheyoungestoftheteamandverywilling17.Shehelpedwiththethingsthatshereallyenjoyed,likepaintingandmusic,butshealsodidboringthingsliketakingchildrentothetoiletandwipingnosesandshewasveryhappydoingthat.Shenevermindedthatkindofthingsatall.”Dianaclearlytooktohernewroleasaroyalandlater,asamother:[Atherearlyroyalengagements18,photographer]JaynenoticedDianaoftenwentstraighttowherethechildrenwere.“Shedidn’tmeanto,itwasjustthatshefeltmoreatease19withchildrenaroundher.Ifshecouldfindachildthatshecouldtouchorbenddownto,shedidn’tfeelallself-conscious20,unlikehavingtostandwithherhandsbyherside.”“Rightfromthestart,”addsJayne,“sheseemedaverymotherly21persontome.Withherownchildren,shecouldn’tstoptouchingthem,cuddlingthem,andmakingsuretheylookedpresentable22inpublic.Youcouldalwaysseethebondwiththeboys.”Diana＇scharityworkwastheoneconstantforher;overtheyears,sheshowedanunusualabilityingettingstrangerstotrusther:In1986DianametSimonBarnes,whofollowinganaccidenttwoyearspreviously23,wasparaplegic24.[Barnesandtwohealthyfriendshadraisedfundsforspinal25researchbypushingthemselves1200milesfromEnglandtoScotlandintheirwheelchairs.InvitedtomeetDianaatKensingtonPalace,Barneslaterbecameafriend.]“Whenwewerefirstintroducingourselves,threeofussatroundinasemicircle26infrontofher,andshesaid,‘MyGod,lookatallthesemuscles.I’msurroundedbymenwithgreatbigmuscles.’Well,wewerelookingfit,andtotallynotwhatpeopleexpectwhentheygetintroducedtothreewheelchairusers.Butitwassokindofhertocommentonsomethingunrelated27toourinjuries.Shewasverymuchlikethat.”ThelateReverendTonyLloyd,whowasexecutivedirector28oftheLeprosy29Mission,accompaniedheronvisitstohospitalsinNepal,HongKongandZimbabwe.“Dianahadanabilitytodetect30people’ssuffering.Shealwaysseemedabletofindthepatientmostinneed,ortheloneliest.”“ButDianawasalsogreatfun.Ioncesawhergoingintoaleprosyward31,oneoftheleasthappyplacestobein,butshewouldhavethemalllaughinginfiveminutes.Therewasoneoldladywhoaskedher‘Howoldareyou?’Andtheprincesssaid,‘Noneofyourbusiness,oldlady!’TheoldladyhadenoughEnglishtounderstand.Andtherewasthiswomanwithleprosyandwithoutanyteethjustgiggling32likeaschoolgirl.ThentheIndiandirectortoldtherestofthewardwhatshe’dsaidandtheyallstartedlaughing.I’dneverseenanythinglikethatbefore.”戴安娜敏感的天性在幼年时就表露无遗。[教师]琼记得，假如别的孩子不开心了，戴安娜就会主动关心他们。“她的弟弟查尔斯刚上托儿所的时候，”琼回忆道，“戴安娜显得很焦急。在我的一堂课上我看到戴安娜心神不宁，她居然不停地问，‘您觉得查尔斯现在好吗？您认为他高兴吗？’我说，‘喔，你何不去看一看呢？’她出去了一会儿回来说，‘他很好’，然后才又安心听课。”……戴安娜9岁时就读瑞德斯女子寄宿学校。此前的“大部分时间我一直忙着照顾爸爸，突然有一天我意识到就要离开他了”，因为不得不去寄宿学校。这使她有一种被抛弃的感觉。[前女校长帕特里夏·伍德说]：“这也许源于[她父母]的离异。但[戴安娜]需要确定在瑞德斯她是个有用的人，所以任何她力所能及的可以证明她价值的事情，她都会参与。我从前设立了一个‘最乐于助人的女孩’奖，她获奖的次数不计其数。她总是在放学后留下来帮助打扫[教室]，收拾书本。‘我能做点什么吗？’她在所有其他教师眼里也是如此——以至于有时候你会忍不住问，‘喂，戴安娜，你为什么不出去玩呢？’”拉丁文教师雷金纳德说：“父母离异显然对她影响很深，她内心非常痛苦。有几次她哭着问我，为什么妈妈不爱爸爸？为什么爸爸不爱妈妈？很难对一个孩子解释这些。”……在学校，戴安娜是惟一一个彭妮·沃克敢把她新生婴儿给其照料的孩子。“1977年的假期，我儿子出生了。开学头一天，戴安娜出现在门前台阶上，手里拿着一个为他准备的可爱的玩具。她站在那儿说，‘快来拿，要不我就留给自己了，因为我觉得它好可爱。’然后她不停地跑过来问，‘我能帮忙吗？’就这样她成了临时小保姆。在与她同龄的学生当中，除了她我绝不可能把小婴儿托付给第二个人，可她却完全知道该怎么做。”1978年春，戴安娜迁居伦敦，当上了一名幼儿园助理教师……戴安娜的母亲总能看到女儿对他人的关心，即便工作以后也是如此。“例如，她在伦敦的时候，她和另一个租了我公寓的女孩合住。一天晚上，一楼的房客