跨文化交际实用教程unit6课件2

Unit6Cross-GenderCommunication1.Learnthedifferencesofsexandgender;2.Learnthedifferencesoffeminineandmasculinecommunicationcultures;3.Learntounderstandcross-gendercommunication.ObjectivesContentsLead-in1TextStudy2Practice33Summary44Homework5Expressionsrelatedtotwogenders•MenarefromMars,womenarefromVenus.•There’rethreetypesofhumanbeings:men,womenandwomendoctors.•Manandwomanareliketwohedgehogsinwinter:tooclose,gethurt;toofaraway,getlonelyandcold.•Isitpossibletogetaconfidanteorconfidantinreality?•“别瞎说，我们只是好朋友而已。”听到这种台词，相必一大帮人会带着一副原来如此的表情在心里说“且……”。•我只听过一句话“不要让你的女朋友有蓝颜知己，因为蓝着蓝着你就绿了，不要让你的男朋友有红颜知己，因为红着红着你俩就黄了”我觉得很对。•在幼儿园里存在，还有就是耄耋之年有，这中间的年龄段绝对是挑战。无论红颜蓝颜，都是替补队员理论上当然有，两个条件：长得足够难看，情商足够高。据说90+的妹子认为存在的90+的男人认为不存在如果这个世界有鬼存在的话，我就会相信有红颜知己存在。1.Lead-inHowcouldyouexplaintoLiHua’sparentsabouttherelationshipbetweenLiHuaandJohn?HowcouldyouexplaintoJohnLiHua’sparents’behavior?Case1I’venotconsideredmarriageyet.comment•Thecaseshowsmanandwoman’sdifferentattitudestowardtheirrelationship,andtheparents’attitudesregardingchildren’sloveandmarriageinChineseculture.•ToJohn6monthsnotleadtomarriage•ToLiHuatimetobringJohntomeetparents•ToLiHua’sparentstreatJohnasafutureson-in-lawbackgroundmarriageplansmisunderstandingconflictCase2Canwetalkaboutus?Thisshowsacommontypeofclashincross-gendercommunication.Forwomen,theirrelationshipisapopulartopic,whileformen,itisnotafocus.Menusetalktosolveproblemsratherthantoenhancetheirrelationship.Womenthinkiftheyaretalkingwitheachother,theneverythingisgoingsmoothly.ForBen,Anna’ssuggestiontotalkabouttheirrelationshipispointless.ForAnna,Ben’sreluctanceandlackofinterestintalkingsimplyhurtherfeelings.Case3Feelingleft–outInpublic,thenormsofexpressingone’sfeelingsandaffectionstowardtheoppositesexvariesacrossculture.InAsiaandsomecountriesaroundtheMediterraneanSea,itisacceptabletohavebodycontactbetweenthesamesexinpublic,butnotbetweentheoppositesexes,especiallyinfrontofthefriends.Chenleftbecausehefeltawkwardwitnessingthemhuggingandkissing.ThisshowsthatDickknowsnothingaboutthenaturalresponseoftheChinesetocertainbehaviors.Similarly,ChenLiang’sbehaviorshowsthatheisalsointhedarkaboutAmericanbehaviors.2.TextStudyPleasereadSexandGenderinyourtextbookfrompage119to120andanswerthefollowingquestions.1.Whatissex?Andwhatisgender?2.Whatisthedifferencebetweensexandgender?Indicatesexualidentities•Sexisdeterminedbygeneticcodesthatprogrambiologicalfeatures.•Manwoman•MalefemaleGenderismorecomplexthansex.masculineandfeminineSexisdeterminedbygeneticsandbiology,whilegenderisproducedbysociety.sexgenderbiologicalpermanentindividualpropertysociallyconstructedvariedovertimeandacrossculturessocialandrelationalqualityPleasereadFeminineandMasculineCommunicationCulturesinyourtextbookfrompage120to123andanswerthefollowingquestions.•Whatarethebasicrulesofboy’sorgirlsinteraction?•Whatarethedifferencesbetweenfeminineandmasculinecommunicationculture?Girls’Games(unstructured,cooperative)•Becooperative,collaborative,andinclusive•Don’tcriticizeoroutdoothers.•Payattentiontoother’sfeelingsandneedsBoy’sgames(morestructured,large,individualized)•Assertyourself.•Focusonoutdoors.•Becompetitive.Summary•Girls’gamesoccurwithinagenderculturethatemphasizescooperation,sensitivitytowardothers,andexperiencemorethanoutcome.•Boys’gamesemphasizeachievement,bothfortheteamandfortheindividualmembers.DifferencesbetweenFeminineandMasculineCommunicationCultureFeminineTalk1.Usetalktobuildandsustainrapportwithothers.2.Shareyourselfandlearnaboutothersthroughdisclosing3.UsetalktocreatesymmetryorequalitybetweenpeopleMasculineTalk1.Usetalktoassertyourselfandyourideas.2.Personaldisclosurescanmakeyouvulnerable3.Usetalktoestablishyourstatusandpower4.Matchingexperienceswithothersshowsunderstandingandempathy5.Tosupportothers,expressunderstandingoftheirfeelings.6.Includeothersinconversationbyaskingtheiropinionsandencouragingthemtoelaborate.4.Matchingexperiencesisacompetitivestrategytocommandattention.5.Tosupportothers,dosomethinghelpful6.Don’tsharethetalkstagewithothers,wrestitfromthemwithcommunication.Interruptotherstomakeyourownpoints.7.Keeptheconversationgoingbyaskingquestionsandshowinginterestinothers’ideas.8.Beresponsive.Letothersknowyouhearandcareaboutwhattheysay.9.Betentativesothatothersfeelfreetoaddtheirideas.10.Talkingisahumanrelationshipinwhichdetailsandinterestingsidecommentsenhancedepthofconnection7.Eachpersonisonherorhisown;it’snotyourjobtohelpothersjoinin.8.Useresponsestomakeyourownpointsandtooutshineothers.9.Beassertivesoothersperceiveyouasconfidentandincommand.10.Talkingisalinearsequencethatshouldconveyinformationandaccomplishgoals.FourExamples•Whatcountsassupport?•Trickyfeedback•Expressingcare•I’dratherdoitmyself.SixPrinciples•Suspendjudgement.•Recognizethevalidityofdifferentcommunicationstyles•Providetranslationcues.•Seektranslationcues.•Enlargeyourowncommunicationstyle•SuspendjudgementDBABCBCDDACDABCDABCDAAACBABADACAABBADBCDBABCACAABA