搭讪

ForNo.4groupTobebrave!!!!•Firsttoseetheirfavoritemustcompareactiveah,don'tyouwantotherstaketheinitiative?Peoplehaveoftensaidthatthevillageisnotthestore,isitright?,soismyword,Iwillbeveryactiveaskaskyoucannumber,ifitisverystrangethatway,Iwouldsaythatthenextmeetingwouldandhetookthenumber.Todirect,butdon'tfrightenothers,iftheydonotgiveyou.Then,peoplearewillingtoyouisnotwhatImeanbyit,ifheiswillingtogive,thatalsomeansthatyouhaveagreatchance.•首先看到自己心仪的肯定要比较主动啊，难道你想要别人主动吗？•人都经常说过了这个村就没有这个店的，是不是，所以是我的话，我会很主动的问请问可以要你号码吗，如果是很陌生的那种的话，我会说等到下一次见面才和他拿号码。要直接，但是也不要吓到别人，如果别人不给的话。那就说明了，人家肯对你没有什么意思的呢，如果他肯给，那也就说明你有很大的机会呢。•Howtocommunicatewithpeople,firstofallunderstandeachotherispremise,respectingandunderstandingisthekeytounderstandothers,isaneffectivemethodoftranspositionthinking,communicatingtheresultswithdifferentrequirements,soastoachieveeffectivecommunication.Companycommunicationisaveryimportantsubjectinthefamily,fatherandmother,spousalcommunication,communication,communicatewiththechildren,schoolandteachercommunication,schoolandstudentstoworkandleadership,communication,communicate,workandcommunicationwithcolleagues,gotothesocietytocommunicatewithfriends,theyareourlifeinthechain,istheindispensablelinkisalsoveryimportant,donotbelieveyoucangoandhaveatry,nocommunicationorlosecommunicationwillbehow?Ireprintedpsychologyworkerstohavealook,think,talkto,hopeyouenlighten.Life,whetheritislearning,work,orlife,cannotleavetodealwithpeople.Andthepeople,emotionalexperience,knowledgelevel,hobbiesandotherfactorsmaynotbeconsistent,thedifferenceisnormal.Butthisdifference,astheheartinpeopleofagap,needbypassconnection,withpeopleoftensaythatthecommunicationisawordtobekindto.But,howtocommunicatewithpeople•怎么与人沟通，首先彼此了解是前提，尊重理解是关键，理解别人的有效方法是换位思考，沟通的结果要求同存异，这样才能做到有效的沟通。公司沟通是很重要的一门学科，在家要和爸爸、妈妈沟通、夫妻沟通、和孩子沟通、上学和老师沟通、在校要和同学沟通、上班要和领导、上司沟通、工作要和同事沟通，走上社会要和朋友沟通，它们都是我们生活中的生活链，是不可缺少的环节也是很重要的环节，不信你们可以自己去试试看，没有沟通或失去沟通会如何？我转载心理学工作者们的对话给大家看看、想想、对对，望大家有所启迪。人生在世，无论是学习、工作、还是生活，都离不开与人打交道。人和人来往，情绪体验、认识水平、兴趣爱好等因素可能不一致，出现的差别也是正常的。但这个“差别”，就像横在人们心里的一道“鸿沟”，需要“搭桥”连接，用时下人们常说的“沟通”一词去善对。出奇不意法适用类型：男女兼宜某日下午的步行街上，小林姑娘独自闲逛。忽然有一男子上前，很有礼貌地问：小姐，请问现在几点?小林抱歉地说：对不起，我没戴手表和手机，不知道时间。此时，男子伸出手来，露出腕表说：我知道现在是北京时间下午3点50分，那边的电影院有一场4点开映的电影，我可以请你去看吗?……In1,theelementofsurprisemethodapplicabletypes:bothmenandwomenshouldbeoneafternoon,walkingthestreets,Kobayashigirlwanderingalone.Suddenlyaman,verypolitely:Miss,whattimeisitnow?Kobayashisorrytosay:sorry,Ididn'twearawatchandamobilephone,donotknowthetime.Atthistime,manstretchedouthishand,hiswatchandsaid:IknownowisthatBeijingtimeisthreefiftyintheafternoon,thereisacinema4onfilm,mayIaskyoutosee?......成功概率：★★★友情提醒：此法不吝男女，仅适用于有幽默感的对象。Theprobabilityofsuccess:tailoredfriendlyreminder:thismethodisnotonlyapplicabletomenandwomen,haveasenseofhumortotheobject.直接进击法适用类型：男女兼宜赵赵与几位朋友自咖啡馆出来，刚才一直在咖啡馆注意她的男子也一路跟随。赵赵暗笑，不知这样幼稚的跟踪有什么意义。男子加快速度跟上，几步走到她面前，摊开双手拦住，眼睛直视赵赵，非常认真地说：你好!我叫**，在C大读**专业三年级，很希望认识你，和你做个朋友。朋友们发出善意的哄笑，赵赵也笑了，对他说：做普通朋友是可以的，你好，我叫赵赵。2,directattackmethodapplicabletypes:bothmenandwomentoZhaoZhaoandafewfriendsfromthecafe,hadbeeninacafenoticedhermanisalsoawaytofollow.ZhaoZhaolaughed,knowingthischildishtrackingwhatmeaning.Manuptospeedup,stepuptohertostop,spreadhishands,eyesopeninZhaoZhao,veryseriouslysaid:Hello!Mynameis**,**intheCreadingprofessionalgradethree,verygladtoknowyou,andyoumakeafriend.Friendsofthegoodwillofthelaughter,ZhaoZhaosmiled,andsaidtohim:yourfriendyes,Hello,mynameisZhaoZhao.成功概率：★★★★友情提醒：真诚是搭讪成功的最大秘诀，在不知所措的对方面前，先坦率地介绍自己，才能获得信任。Theprobabilityofsuccess:tailoredfriendlyreminder:sincereisaccostedthebiggestsecretofsuccess,inthefrontofeachotherataloss,thefirsttointroduceyourself,tobetrusted.知己难求法适用类型：男女兼宜中秋节，学校停电。默默和蚊子两个女生在校园游荡，无处可去，无人可爱。正沮丧，忽然看见两个男生背着吉他经过，默默跟蚊子商量后，大胆地走上去问：可以听你们弹支曲子吗?也许朦胧的月光、恼人的停电和女生的恳求让他们心动，顿时爽快答应了她们的约会。In6,friendsandhardtofindlawapplicabletypes:bothmenandwomentotheMid-AutumnFestival,theschoolblackout.Silentlyandmosquitoestwogirlsoncampuswandering,noplacetogo,noonecute.Isdepressed,hesawthetwoboysguitaraftersilentlywithmosquitoes,afterdiscussion,boldlywenttoask:canhearyouplaythesong?perhapsthedimmoonlight,annoyinginterruptionandgirlsbeggedthemheartbeat,hereadilypromisedthem.成功概率：★★★★友情提醒：任何人都喜欢表现优点，尤其是拥有特长的人，而且这个理由听起来很美。Theprobabilityofsuccess:tailoredfriendlyreminder:anyonelikeperformanceadvantages,especiallywiththeexpertiseofthepeople,andforthisreasonitsoundsbeautiful.闲时利用法适用类型：男女兼宜小王到北京出差，因飞机误点滞留机场，正百无聊赖之际，肩头忽被人拍了一记。他转头看见拍他之人竟是一位美女，她问：你是不是也搭**次航班?真的误点了吗?原来美女也是独自旅行，小王提议去机场咖啡厅喝一杯，美女欣然答应。3,leisureuseapplicabletypes:bothmenandwomentoWangbusinesstriptoBeijing,duetothelatearrivaloftheaircraftstrandedintheairport,isbored,shoulderandwasshotdown.Heturnedhisheadandsawbeathimwasagirl,sheasked:isitright?Youalsotakethe**flights?Reallylate?theoriginalbeautyistravelingalone,heproposedtogototheairporttothecafetodrinkacupof,Bellereadilyagreed.成功概率：★★★★友情提醒：利用等飞机的闲暇时间约会，环境、情调都不错，又带有一丝相逢何必曾相识的旅行孤独感，所以搭讪成功的机会较高，同理，火车、轮船上都适用此法。Theprobabilityofsuccess:tailoredfriendlyreminder:usingaircraftsuchasleisuretimedating,environment,atmosphereisgood,andwithsomestrang