The-Art-of-Pleasing

TheArtofPleasingWeliveinasocietywhichotherpeoplealsolivein.Theymaycomefromdifferentplaces,ofdifferentraces,havedifferentbeliefs,butnoneofthemdonotliketobepleased,thisishumannature.Whynotpleaseothers?Ifwedothisappropriately,wecangetonwellwithpeople.Ifwedothistimely,wemaygethelpfromothers.Ifwedothissincerely,weshouldreceivetruefriendships.Afterall,pleasingpeopleisavirtuetoo.Soifwewanttoenjoyourliveswithfriendlyrelationships,weneedtoknowhowtopleaseothers.JustasanEnglishstatesman,LordChesterfieldsaid,“Theartofpleasingisverynecessaryonetopossess,butaverydifficultonetoacquire.”Theartofpleasingisnotrules,butyoustillneedsomeskills.First,civilizedmannersandhabitsareessentialpartofanyassociation.Thispartwillmakeafirstimpression.Soneverspiteverywhereorputyourlegsonchairsinpublic.Second,trytofigureoutothers’likesanddislikes,interestsandtaboos.Avoidother’stabooscanshowyourrespecttothem.Talkingabouttheirinterestscanbringfargreaterrewardsthaninterestitself.Third,avoidtalkinganddoingextremely,whichiscalled“thedoctrineofthemean”inChina.Asweallknown,agentlemangetsalongwithothers,butdoesnotnecessarilyagreewiththem.Yetyoucannotforceotherstoacceptyourpointofview.Weretherenomodestandtolerance,neverwouldwereceivetruefriendships.What’smore,strengthencontactwithothers,donotskimpyourcomplimentandassistance.Afriendinneedisafriendindeed,andit’sthebestwaytopleaseothers.Beyondtheseskills,Iinsistbelievethatthegreaterskillissincere.Ifyoupleasepeoplesincerelywithouthopingrewards,thismaybethemosteffectivetooltopleasepeople.Ihopeyoufindthesesuggestionhelpful.