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PersonalrelationshipExcellentRelationships•Thesecondgoalthatweallhaveincommonistoenjoyexcellentrelationships——intimate,personalorsocial——withthepeoplewelikeandrespect,andwholike,loveandrespectusinturn.Fully85%ofyourhappinesswillbedeterminedbythequalityofyourrelationshipsateachstage,•andineacharea,ofyourlife.Howwellyougetalongwithpeople,andhowmuchtheylike,loveandrespectyou,hasmoreimpactonthequalityofyourlifethanperhapsanyotherfactor.•人生的第二大梦就是完美的人际关系,与亲人、朋友和同事,以及社会上一般人融洽相处、互动良好。我们爱且尊敬他人,而他人也爱且尊敬我们。人们在任何一个人生阶段或居住在任何一个地区是否觉得幸福快乐,其中有百分之八十五取决于融洽的人际关系。你与他人相处的情形,他人是否喜欢你、爱你、尊重你,构成了你是否觉得幸福快乐的关键因素。•Tobuildupagoodrelationshipwithothershelpsyoualot.First,friendscanoffertheirhelptoyouwheneveryoumeettroubles.Andifyouhaveagoodrelationshipwithothers,thenyoucanaskforallkindsofhelpfromthem.Second,relationshipisasymboltomakeushumandifferentfromanimals.Weallneedit.Wecanhardlylivewithoutlove,friendship,etc.Generallyspeaking,peoplehatesloneliness•Respectforthosewhodonotlikeyou•Toshakehandswithpeoplewhentheyarelittlemoregrip.Arethesincere.•Ontheissueratherthantheperson;orcallousthingforpeopletolove;orbeingfirst,followedbywork•Nottoothers,andbetakenforgranted.Thanksgivingshouldknow•Howtodealwithourpersonalrelationship•Everyrelationshipexperiencessomeconflict.Someexperiencemorethanothers,someareplayful,andsomearehateful.Thentherearethosethatareneverendingpatternsofconflictthatseemimpossibletobreak.•Ifyoudowanttostopthecycleofconflict,considerthese10stepstobringharmonybacktoyourrelationship.Notethatthisdoesn'tonlyapplytoparentandgirlfriends,thesecanapplytoworkconflictsaswell.•1.CoolDownTime.Ifyou'vefoundyourselfinaheatedargument,thebestthingyoucandoiswalkawayforalittlewhile.Blowoffsomesteamwithawalkorbytalkingthingsoutwithaclearheadedfriend.Ifyoujustneedsomerest,takeanaporameditationnap.•Beforegoingseparateways,takeadeepbreathandagreetodiscusstheissuelater.Thewholegoalofseparatingshouldbetocomebacktogetherwithabetterabilitytoworkthingsout.•2.MutualRespect.Nomatterhowdividedyouareinyourpositions,alwaysrememberthehumanityoftheotherperson.Keepinmindtheirweaknessesandfrailties.Thinkabouttherespectyouwantandthengiveitunconditionallytotheotherperson.Bekindevenifyouareangry.Ifthatmakesyoucryinsteadofscreaming,you'llprobablyfindthatyourselfgettingclosertothetruerootoftheissue.Whenyougettotheroot,youcanstartsolvingthings.•3.StartwithYourself.Askyourselfwhatpartoftheargumentisyourresponsibility.Howdidyoucontributetothisargument?Whatcanyoudotoresolveit?Doyouneedtoapologize?Doyouknowhow?Thisvideotaughtmethe3stepstoaproperapology:•I'msorry.•Itwasmyfault.•HowcanImakeitrightagain?•4.What'sItAllAbout?Fromyourperspective,whatistheargumentreallyabout?Whatwouldtheotherpersonsaytheargumentisabout?Whatcommongoalsdoyoubothsharethatcouldbeusedasavehicletoreacharesolution?•5.Needsvs.Wants.Figureoutwhatitisthatyouwant.Thenaskyourself,whatdoIreallyneed?Goforwhatyouneedandbeflexibleonyourwants.Aneedissomethingyoucan'tlivewithoutandawantismoreofapreference.Aresolutiondoesn'tmeanyougeteverythingyouwant,buthopefullyyougeteverythingthatyouneed.Ifyoucan'tgetwhatyouneedthenyoumayneedtore-evaluatetherelationship•5.Needsvs.Wants.Figureoutwhatitisthatyouwant.Thenaskyourself,whatdoIreallyneed?Goforwhatyouneedandbeflexibleonyourwants.Aneedissomethingyoucan'tlivewithoutandawantismoreofapreference.Aresolutiondoesn'tmeanyougeteverythingyouwant,buthopefullyyougeteverythingthatyouneed.Ifyoucan'tgetwhatyouneedthenyoumayneedtore-evaluatetherelationship•6.CompassionandEmpathy.Howistheotherpersonfeeling?Howwoulditfeeltobeintheirshoes?Behonest.Whataretheirfearsbehindtheanger?Focusonthegoodqualitiesintheotherpersonandconsiderwhattheirgoalsare.•7.WisdomandStrengths.Whatarethebestqualitiesofthisperson?Whatwisdomdotheypossess?Everyoneissmartaboutsomething.Howcanyoutapintothatwisdomtohelpyoumoveforwardoutofconflict?Whatcanyoulearnfromyourpartner?•8.BettertoBeHappythantoBeRight.Conflictcanbehurtfulanddamagingtoarelationshipwhenallowedtorunwild.Takeastepbacktoviewthebigpicture.Whatdoyoureallywant?Whatisyourgoal?Attheendofyourlife,howwillyouviewthisargument?Whatwillyouwishyoudid?Howcanyouemergefromthisconflictandreturntoalightandpeacefulstate?9.MutualCaring.Whatgoodthingsdoyouwantforyourpartner?Howcanyouhelpthatpersongetwhattheyneedwhileyougetwhatyouneed,eitheractivelyorbytakingastepback?•10.GoodTimesTogether.Oftenwecangetintoapatternofconflictwithpartnersandfriendswhenwearenotfindingtimetosharefuntogether.Sooncetheimmediateconflictisresolvedoratleastsemi-resolved,takesomeactionthatwillhavelong-termbenefits.Scheduleinfuntimetogetheronaregularbasis.Agoodplacetostartisonceaweek.DesignatethistimetobeFunTimeOnlytogether.Nodiscussionoftriggertopics,justfun.Enjoy!Theskillofbuildrelationship•Communicationisthebestwayofbuildpersonalrelationship.Theskillofcommunicationisapowerweapontobuildyoupersonalrelationship.••Sometimesitcanbetoughtokeepaconversationgoing.Takethisfamiliarscenario:•有时如何让对话继续是件难事,比如说下面这个场景有没有一点似曾相似?•You’retalkingtosomeoneyouhavejustmet,andtheconversationisstartingtostall.Withev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